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Long distance dating is never an ideal situation for any couple. You may have met your partner online, or whilst on holiday in another city or country, you could have been high school sweethearts that separated to go to different colleges. The good news is that you have found someone you obviously connect with and care for and are prepared to make sacrifices for, the bad news is that you are apart by hundreds of miles. There are ways to survive long distance dating, it is hard work and takes a huge degree of commitment and trust from both parties, but long distance dating can be done.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder is a phrase that you will never want to hear as while it may be true, it is not the most practical way to conduct any relationship. Long distance dating can lack true intimacy, while there is the obvious lack of physical intimacy, not having your partner there when he or she is needed is the hardest barrier to overcome. Your partner is far away and therefore jealousy becomes an issue, what is he or she doing tonight? Are they meeting new people while you are at home studying etc.
The first key step to making a long distance relationship is to keep open and honest communication. The main issue with distance is that it breeds misunderstanding and potential doubt. Email and chat on programs like Skype or MSN as often as possible, invest in long distance calling cards so you can hear your lovers voice and keep the communication open and honest. Set aside regular call times, like when you both finish work, this way both parties will be looking forward to communicating throughout the day and this keeps levels of intimacy up while you are apart.
Long distance dating takes away all physical acts of love, but try the old fashioned approach of sending your lover a hand written love letter. This will be seen as more meaningful and heartfelt than any MSN conversation. Send your partner gifts and photos, let them know what your plans are and be honest and remember it is important not to alienate yourself from your loved ones while feeling the sadness of being away from your loved one.
The best way to manage long distance dating is to have a plan for a future together. If the relationship is at a distance and neither party has a plan of moving permanently, the relationship will slowly dissolve. Work together as quickly as possible after commencing your long distance relationship for a plan of a future together. You will then have a date to look forward to and goals to reach to achieve this. Constantly reaffirm these long term goals with your partner and take away the day to day loneliness that comes with long distance dating. The best way to reinforce loyalty and commitment is to use the word ‘we’ whenever communicating with your partner, this will build intimacy and help solidify plans of a future together one day.
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Source by John Ulonka